Episode 7: INTRODUCING MY HUSBAND!! Tinder success story, falling in love hard and FAST, and healing together
Happy Ordinary Love Tuesday!!! It’s been awhile, hasn’t it? I hope you are all well and had an amazing holiday season. I took an impromptu week off for the holidays, but I am back and ready for the new year!! This week is really exciting because I get to share the conversation I had with my husband, Bradley. This episode was filmed back in October for our dating anniversary, so think of this episode like a vault release lol.
Join us as we discuss:
♡ Dating post-COVID and being a Tinder success story
♡ Our cringe dating app profiles
♡ The first date that never should have happened
♡ Who made the first move
♡ How we went from “not wanting a relationship” to happily married in three years
♡ Falling fast and being 100% sure from the get go
♡ Whether or not we should still celebrate our dating anniversary
♡ How we found ourselves after past long term relationships and continued to grow together
♡ Traveling mishaps and mistakes
♡ Exciting plans for the future
…And more!
Scroll down for episode transcript ♡
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Oh my gosh. Okay, so let me just I guess do an
intro. Okay. Hi. No, no, let me Oh, okay. So,
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welcome back to another episode of Ordinary Love,
a podcast where I sit down with couples and talk
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about their relationship and everything that makes
it special and unique. Hi, I am the couple in this
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relationship. Obviously, I only have one other
guest with me today. Yes. And I've been really
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excited about this episode just for an excuse to
bring my husband. Hi. On the podcast and yeah,
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just talk about our relationship, which we
love to do. Well, before we get before we
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get into the episode, why don't you introduce
yourself? You know, I'm actually kind of I'm
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trying to test run something and maybe because
when people when people ask or when I ask people
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to introduce themselves, they don't really know
what to say. So, why don't you say your name,
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how old you are, and what you do. I am Bradley.
I am currently 31 years old and I am the star in
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this beautiful marriage that we are in. That's
his main occupation. I vibe at work at um Yeah,
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I vibe at Tesla. I hate when he says this because
no one understands. What does that mean? I do
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vibration testing at work basically. Mhm. I don't
want to reexplain anymore. Then he just goes into
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like a little Well, he works at Tesla and he's an
engineering technician. Yes. And that's all you
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need to know. So, I hope you know that I have
no plan for this episode. Oh, really? Julie,
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that's good cuz like I only skimmed through the um
this the glossery the questionnaire is like just
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one time. Just that one time. Like months ago.
Yeah. Yeah. I haven't even looked at it since
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then. So usually what we start with in these
episodes just talking about our story. Just to
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preface we've been together for Okay. Actually
this is a very special weekend because we are
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celebrating you know. Okay. Hold on. I can't I'm
redo. But it is a special weekend because we just
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celebrated our four-year dating anniversary,
which what I was going to say earlier before
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my brain went too fast is that we don't know
if dating anniversary is like something that
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we will want to celebrate moving forward now that
we are married. Yeah. Yes. Yeah. But but I mean,
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so we've been married for one year. Yes. We got
married August of last year. Yes. And it feels
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like still early enough in our marriage that not
celebrating our dating anniversary feels like a
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disservice. You know, we've been together four
years. It's a long time. I feel like we should
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maybe not celebrate it. We I was like, where is
he going? Why? Okay. Why? Okay. Okay. Okay. So,
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I know we talked about this when we did like right
after the whole um proposal where we have like a
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lot of months, consecutive months where we're
celebrating our our relationship and yes, it's
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a lot. Yes. Yes. It's amazing to have those kind
of moments where we are. But it's a lot. Yeah,
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it's a lot, man. You know, it's a lot especially.
It's a lot. It's currently 2025 and you know,
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inflations are pretty high right now. Yeah. you're
you're you're financially well off right now. I'm
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financially struggling. Okay. So, what he's trying
to say, what he's attempting very hard to say is
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that it is becoming a significant financial
expense to keep celebrating because Okay,
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so background too is that our wedding anniversary
starts off with your birthday starts off in July.
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Okay, I guess. Yeah. So my birthday is in July
and then our wedding anniversary is August and
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then our proposal which I don't even know if
people celebrate this but he proposed to me
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in September and then our dating anniversary is
October and then his birthday is November and
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then December is Christmas. So if we were to
celebrate everything that's the entire second
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half of the year. Why? How did we get here? I
don't know. I don't know. So yes, um we've been
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celebrating for four uh we just celebrated our
four years together. And so what did we do? What
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did we do today for our four year Well, okay.
So our four year anniversary was on Thursday,
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but we celebrated today. Yes. And what did we
do? We get a massage and we um got We just went
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to the spa. Yeah, we just went to the spa, did a
little hot tub, little sauna to getting a massage
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to like pretty much just start our day today. Um,
but on our actual day, we celebrated watching. Oh
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my god. The curious thing. Okay. So, on our actual
anniversary, it was a Thursday and so I worked and
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you worked too, but like we worked pretty late
until like 600, seven. Um, and then after Oh,
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it actually I didn't even work. I was sick. Yeah,
you were sick. Got this this conversation with
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Yeah. Okay. So, he got me sick. I got her sick.
Um, so I was actually sick on Thursday, but we had
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these tickets and I've been looking forward to it
for so long. And so after he got home from work,
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we went to go see one of the BTS movies because
it's BTS week. And which one did we see? We seen
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a BTS movie. It was the 2021 Festa Muster. Okay.
Yeah. I knew a year. I just didn't know what the
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actual it was. Yeah, it was wild. It was nice to
see because it was during co high time co so it
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was like um it was a virtual yeah it was a virtual
concert where we just see a bunch of screens and
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people cheering and then just talking to them.
So it really brought back to like the whole
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um time everyone was on Zoom. Yeah. Everyone's
on Zoom. So anyways, why don't we start from
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the beginning because the story that we have is
like on paper it's kind of like basic but it's
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actually kind of cute and there's so many things
that like it shouldn't have happened. Yeah. Like
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the fact that we are sitting here married today is
like kind of mind-blowing to me. Yeah. Cuz there
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are so many things that just like shouldn't have
happened. Yeah. I think the cute thing about about
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our whole entire relationship is realizing how how
compatible we were in a time where we wasn't even
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looking for a relationship. So what happened was
is that we were both on the apps. This was like
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2021, like summer of 2021, right? So like things
were just starting to open up again. We had,
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you know, like the entire year and a half of
COVID behind our backs and just like desperate
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desperate to like meet people and stuff. Yes. But
I had just gotten out of a long-term relationship
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back in 2020 and I had moved back here um to my
hometown to live with my sibling who I interviewed
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a couple episodes ago. I was on the apps because
you know I was kind of out of the dating scene for
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a while. Um and I wasn't really looking to like
you know be in a relationship. I just wanted to
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meet people and I just wanted to kind of, you
know, see what's out there. I hadn't really
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ever used the apps before because my long-term
relationship before was like when we got together,
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it was before the dating apps, right? Um,
which is I think the same for you. Yeah,
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definitely the same for me. So, anyways, that
was my intention. And so, what was your intention
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being on the dating apps? No, very similar to
yours. I just got off a long a very long-term
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relationship in 2019. By the time I got out of the
relationship, like three months has passed by and
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we just got hit with COVID and everything start
shutting down. So did like a whole like year and
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a half and just self-reflection and whatnot. So
yeah, like you said, like towards the end of 2021
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when places started opening up, you know, society
started booming up again. And so I I thought like
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I'll take the opportunity to, you know, just make
more uh make new friends, uh find possibly maybe
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a relationship at some point and um just kind of
kind of build a community for myself because by
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that time like I was still trying to figure out
who who I am outside of this relationship that I
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just left. That is such a good point. I'm glad
that you bring that up because I think that's
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something that we both were experiencing. Oh
yeah. How long was your last relationship? Damn,
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I forget it already. Um, seven years. Me too.
Was yours seven or like I think it was like
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seven dating 8 n I don't know. I'm going to say
seven years. Yeah, mine was like Mine was almost
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eight I think. But it was like around seven. Yeah.
Very long. Where basically like your whole life is
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that relationship. Your whole life. Yeah. Because
your whole young adult life. Yeah. Like before the
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relationship, we were children. And then like
as adults, we were forming adult um habits or
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characteristic with our identities with our
ex at the time. And now that like you know,
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we're venturing onto a new chapter and it just
seems like a new a new chapter of adulthood that
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you are fully unaware of and having to explore it
by yourself now. Someone you have companion with.
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The big question that was on my mind was really
just like who the hell am I if not like one
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half of this relationship. Yeah. That's what's
nice about how we met because it was, you know,
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like a a year or so of just like figuring that
out and like doing a lot of healing with Belle
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because I was living with my sibling at the time.
Shout out to Christian cuz I was living with you,
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man. Yeah. So, it's funny. We both had that, huh?
We both had like that kind of family support.
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Yeah. Family support where we can like, you know,
feel safe and stable while figuring out who the
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hell we are outside of our long-term relationship,
dude. Yeah. No, major shout out to um Christian
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for um giving me a space, a home um a place to
like have me feel my emotions. Tearing up right
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now. I am not. Dude, she's lying. Dude, zoom in
on that 4K. Yeah, these eyes ain't crying. Much
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love to Christian, man. Like, like I was able
to have a space to just to grow and then he,
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you know, he helped cultivated like such a like a
warm environment for me to be in. And then I came
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over and took him away. Sorry, Christian.
I think about you every day. Me, too. Um,
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I'm taking that out because [ __ ]
hate when you make jokes like that.
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So, we were both on the apps. This was
maybe like the end of summer of 2021. Dude,
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just stop saying apps, man. Your readers are your
listeners are going to be like, "What app?" Dude,
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we were just on Tinder, man. Oh my god. Shout out
to Tinder. Shout out to the fiery love that Tinder
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have provided. Tinder, please sponsor me. Dude,
I would 100% not recommend anybody doing that for
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like dating. We honestly was just the lucky ones
out of it. Uh, I don't know. I've heard a lot of
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success stories from Tinder. I I haven't. I like I
Okay, besides our own. I did not have any success
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on Hinge. I didn't use Bumble. I have a feeling
that we we I seen you on Hinge and we definitely
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didn't match. So, you definitely What do you mean?
You definitely I saw you on Hinge after we matched
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on Tinder. I think I forgot the timeline.
We definitely matched on both cuz I remember
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seeing your hinge. I remember seeing your hinge.
Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. At this point, I think
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our timeline gets mixed up. We might have shown
each other our hinge. So, that must have been it.
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Yeah. Cuz I don't know if I remember seeing you on
Hinge. Something that I realized when I was on the
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apps in general was that two things. If you were
going to open up with a pickup line, some people
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are into that. Some people are very into that. And
that is okay. Not me. It makes me literally cringe
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like automatically. And this might be a hot take,
but that's that's just how I feel. And if you just
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say, "Hey, damn." Like with no no effort at all
into like starting a conversation because like I
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I as he found out, I am really good at keeping a
conversation. You just have to help me a little
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bit, right? Oh my god. Yeah. So those were like
my two rules, right? But at the time, this was
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like September, I think. Like hot girl summer was
coming to a close. Cozy Girl Fall was starting.
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I think I just wanted like, you know, one last
harrah. Does that make myself I don't know, man.
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I don't know. Okay. No, no, no. Okay. I'm just
going to be real. I wanted one last harrah before
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cozy girl Autumn, and I matched with this cutie
little thing right here. Hey. And that's exactly
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what he said to me. Hey. With a smiley face. Do
you remember your first impressions of my profile?
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I do actually. Very outdoorsy and you're very
cute. I initially forgot what your first picture
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was, but I do remember like you had some pictures
where you were hiking in the snow and doing some
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yoga poses. Oh, and you had a picture of you in a
pier and whatnot. So, to me, my first impression
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of you looking at these pictures and whatever the
[ __ ] did you put on your caption? I don't even
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remember. Um, I knew Oh, I put that I like anime.
Yeah, you did. You did. You did. You did. I don't
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even know what the [ __ ] I know. We talked about
anime. Yeah. Yeah, we talked in our conversation
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before we went a lot actually. A lot. Um, so
initially from what I could see, like someone who
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really smiles from cheek to cheek, especially just
off like just you smiling in your pictures. You
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look, you know, you're not trying to look cool.
I'm trying to remember what I like what I remember
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from your profile. I just remembered that you said
you were from Hawaii. Oh, dude. No, my caption was
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like hella stupid, dude. Cuz like honestly, I
was lazy, you know? I didn't want to like my
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whole Wait, do you do you remember what yours
said? What was it? Um, basically um just swipe
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right and u message me if you want to find out
more about me. Dude. Wow. Apparently it worked.
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Oh man. Dude, I had like a I literally hate that.
I really don't remember what. Yeah. In the dude,
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maybe just because you were so cute. I
think by then I was like trying to be cute.
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In the beginning I was like being very experime
experimental. But okay. So he he he reached out
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to me saying hey with a smiley face and against
all odds I responded surprisingly. Surprisingly.
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Yeah. Cuz I I truly like I wouldn't have if
it was like a month before or something. But
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we ended up talking and he told me about how he's
from Hawaii and at the time I like really wanted
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to move there. The reason I didn't is because of
him ironically. But I was really trying to move to
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Hawaii. So I was asking him like, you know, what
what was it like growing up there? I think I told
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you really early on that I was a therapist because
I was like talking about like, oh, I'm, you know,
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tired from work or something. I don't know. And
then we talked about a lot anime. I don't know why
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I said it like that. We talked about anime a lot.
Yeah, definitely did. Um, it was nice getting to
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know the kind of animes that you watch. Actually,
he was impressed by my my taste in anime. Yeah,
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dude. Like, you got me like Okay. Okay. Sorry.
Getting kind of nostalgic right now. We talked
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a lot about animes, a lot of introductory life
and like where we're from and like like you know,
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trying to figure out our hobbies so we can start
planning things together. Yeah. I I think I was
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surprised at how easy it was to talk to you
because like we would like talk about like
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five different things in the same conversation in
the same conversation and then we would have like
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almost like bullets like kind of answering every
single he would you were so attentive like you
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responded to everything that I like if you know
even if it was like something small like you would
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respond to every single thing. For some reason,
when I was just texting you, you brought like a
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very like quirky kind of like like happy tone to
your to to what I can like, you know, imagine what
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your voice was in these texts. Yeah. Honestly, we
do kind of text the same way that we talk. Yeah,
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we do. Yeah. I remember texting you at work and
like at the time I was working in the factory and
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at Tesla, I will only have like 10-minute
breaks in between. In the middle of work,
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I'll read her text and it's it's a lengthy text
that we always send each other. So, like at those
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moments, I'll like keep in mind like what I
want on text real quick. In those 10 minutes,
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I'll just like send like a whole paragraph.
And like I will spend my break my breaks all
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the time replying back to everything that you
have to say because I was super interested in
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in like just getting to know you. Like I Yeah.
I have never felt very interested in in trying
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to figure out somebody else so quick. And like
it's weird. It was quick. Yeah. It was It was
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weird. It was new and strange. It was like not
exactly what we were like trying to get out of
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this. And it was just so easy. It was so easy
to talk to you. Yeah, it was super easy. So
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that was like I think around one week that you
know we were talking and then we're like, "Okay,
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like let's just let's just go on a date." And so
we planned for a Thursday. Yes. Because why? Okay.
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I personally like like going out on a Thursday
night. So I I like you you you wanted to make
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it happen on a Why? Huh? Why? Oh, just so I can I
suffered from it. I I you did I like to do it on
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Thursday. So if it works out good, then I'll like,
you know, like, hey, if you're free this week,
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if you're free this weekend, you know, maybe
we can also hang out, you know. I did not know
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this. Is that what happened? No. Sorry. That's
that's that's ex No. You and my you and my [ __ ]
0:17:51.280,0:17:57.120
plan. If we had gone according to plan. I know.
So, we were supposed to meet on a Thursday. Um,
0:17:57.120,0:18:01.760
and I was so excited. I was getting ready for
it. Um, and then I think like the day before
0:18:01.760,0:18:07.680
or something, he canled on me or he reschedled.
Sorry. He rescheduled on me. It was the day of.
0:18:07.680,0:18:11.440
It was the day of. It was the day of the day of.
Yeah. And he he texted me and he's like, "Hey,
0:18:11.440,0:18:17.440
like I'm so sorry. Like, can we reschedu?
Yeah. Postpone this for next week because
0:18:17.440,0:18:21.520
of something with work." And I thought at that
point, dude, like, okay. in the in the culture
0:18:21.520,0:18:27.360
and the fashion of like Tinder dating, we have
to like get the women's attention real quick. Um,
0:18:27.360,0:18:31.920
women are in like this big pool of like see
a man who, you know, flocking towards them,
0:18:31.920,0:18:36.320
right? You have like one chance. So, basically,
he had something come up with work and it was like
0:18:36.320,0:18:40.400
unavoidable. Like it was, you know, the the excuse
that you give when you don't want to go on a date,
0:18:40.400,0:18:45.440
but it was actually legit. I was kind of bummed
about it, but like I didn't I wasn't like torn
0:18:45.440,0:18:48.720
up about it, you know? Like it was just like
like it's fine. like we'll do it next week.
0:18:48.720,0:18:53.520
Which is also something that I wouldn't have
done. Like if someone cancels on me, like I
0:18:53.520,0:18:57.760
just take that as like, oh, they don't actually
want to. But like there was something about you
0:18:57.760,0:19:03.520
that like felt really genuine. Like I I knew that
you weren't trying to like get out of anything.
0:19:03.520,0:19:08.480
I knew it must have been genuinely. Yeah. That's
why I was like, "Yeah, whatever." Like it's fine.
0:19:08.480,0:19:12.160
I honestly felt like we weren't ever going to see
each other at that point because like I know that
0:19:12.160,0:19:16.720
like you had already resorted to Yeah. Like I
I thought like okay like I know when you first
0:19:16.720,0:19:20.720
cancel on somebody like you know it will be like
the same like you had and that's totally valid
0:19:20.720,0:19:24.560
especially when you haven't met someone already
like you know like why would I want to make effort
0:19:24.560,0:19:28.560
to see somebody that already cancelled on me once
you know like is this going to be a habit or is
0:19:28.560,0:19:32.400
this something like I'm I have to get used to just
you know getting to know this person. At that time
0:19:32.400,0:19:38.800
we were like doing this rotation of like every
day um a group of like three people will um stay
0:19:38.800,0:19:44.400
after work and and you know do like an extra like
3 hours worth extra worth of work because of like
0:19:44.400,0:19:50.400
um low manpowers. I I haven't been picked
ever until that Thursday and it had to be that
0:19:50.400,0:19:54.000
Thursday. Oh you had never been picked before
that Thursday and I was like ah what are the
0:19:54.000,0:19:58.960
chances of it you know? Oh god. Like so like that
whole morning I've been like trying to tell my
0:19:58.960,0:20:03.600
boss I was like hey like you know I have something
planned and um you know same excuse like any boss
0:20:03.600,0:20:08.960
got to give you know like hey so does everybody
else what are you entitled for? God you know
0:20:08.960,0:20:14.560
I'm so happy he doesn't work there anymore but um
anyways yes didn't happen. Yeah obviously but for
0:20:14.560,0:20:18.160
some reason we were still able to text somehow.
Yeah we we texted for the rest of the week and
0:20:18.160,0:20:24.160
then you know the next Thursday came came and
you know I went and picked you up. Are you cold?
0:20:29.360,0:20:37.440
So next week Thursday comes around and um I am on
my way to pick up Karina for the first time. Super
0:20:37.440,0:20:43.360
nervous as always. So like to calm my nerves, I
like to talk about like you know my my nerves to
0:20:43.360,0:20:49.680
people and my voice of comfort or who I always
want to talk to at that time was Derek. So I'm
0:20:49.680,0:20:54.560
talking to Derek. I'm like, "Hey, Derek, um, I
think I'm going to stop dating and, you know,
0:20:54.560,0:20:58.480
focus a bit more on myself as, you know, the
holidays come, you know, the winter season's
0:20:58.480,0:21:04.640
here and be more of like ending the year on like a
lot of more like self-reflecting a lot more like,
0:21:04.640,0:21:09.200
okay, what can I grow on for the next year? What
can I focus on?" And, you know, Dererick is like,
0:21:09.200,0:21:13.040
"That's all good, man. You know, that's super
cool. What are you doing right now?" And like,
0:21:13.040,0:21:17.440
I told Derek, "I'm heading to my last date.
I swear." By the time that conversation end,
0:21:17.440,0:21:23.280
I was parked random from your apartment. I text
you and um waited for you. I remember just me
0:21:23.280,0:21:28.080
being on my phone just leaning against my car just
waiting for you. You popped up kind of like you
0:21:28.080,0:21:32.560
know stick your stick your face in front of my
face. Yeah. And like with the biggest smile in
0:21:32.560,0:21:37.920
the world and I'm like hey are you Bradley? And
I'm like uh yeah yeah yeah. And super nervous at
0:21:37.920,0:21:42.640
the time. And uh what I like to do when I get
nervous I like to like poke a little bit fun.
0:21:42.640,0:21:47.840
So like I didn't even like open the door for you.
You just you know assume like like the car I was
0:21:47.840,0:21:52.240
next to was mine. And so I remember you, oh my
god, I forgot about this. So like I was like,
0:21:52.240,0:21:56.400
okay, let's, you know, let's let's head on
going. So you open the door and I was like,
0:21:56.400,0:22:02.400
and then you're like, what? I'm like, oh, that's
not my car. And I remember this and I was like,
0:22:02.400,0:22:08.240
oh [ __ ] Like I had a face like, yeah, like cuz
why wouldn't I not assume that that was his car?
0:22:08.240,0:22:13.600
He was literally leaning on it. But it was your
car. It was my car. It was my car. Yeah. I took
0:22:13.600,0:22:18.800
Karina out to a vegetarian restaurant and it's my
first time ever choosing or going to a vegetarian
0:22:18.800,0:22:23.680
restaurant and till this date that was like the
most poorest selection of restaurant that I could
0:22:23.680,0:22:28.960
have chosen of a pool of amazing vegetarian
restaurant that we have in honestly like never
0:22:28.960,0:22:34.400
again you wouldn't have known. You wouldn't have
known. I I offered I don't know if you remember
0:22:34.400,0:22:40.000
I offered a Korean barbecue place for our first
date and you specifically like replied back like
0:22:40.000,0:22:45.360
did you not read my bio? And I was like I okay
I didn't reply back after that. I went straight
0:22:45.360,0:22:49.120
back to your bio and I'm like I was about to
double down with you like what the [ __ ] do
0:22:49.120,0:22:55.760
you mean read your bio? I looked at it like oh
vegetarian. Yeah I am a vegetarian. Yeah. And
0:22:55.760,0:23:01.600
um I mean it was a it was a really nice it was
a really nice gesture. It was thoughtful. Yeah.
0:23:01.600,0:23:09.760
And like the food it was it was fine. I think
I tried spaghetti. Right. No you did. I got
0:23:09.760,0:23:14.480
spaghetti. Well okay. So I got like I got like
curry or something like yellow curry. It's like
0:23:14.480,0:23:19.840
this like Asian fusion restaurant. But yeah, so
we it's it was nice. Like the vibe was nice. It
0:23:19.840,0:23:24.080
was like this like outdoor little patio area.
Yeah. I mean like all restaurants were outdoors
0:23:24.080,0:23:31.840
at that time. But like Okay. So something that I
didn't know at the time is that you eat insanely
0:23:31.840,0:23:37.360
slowly and not because he's like a slow eater
but because everything else just distracts him
0:23:37.360,0:23:41.760
from eating so much more. And this was like
our first date, you know. This was our first
0:23:41.760,0:23:47.360
date. I can't wait for my friends to hear you
say this because they all could relate to you
0:23:47.360,0:23:55.120
so much. At the time I was like eating right and
I was noticing that he wasn't eating and I was
0:23:55.120,0:24:00.400
like I didn't know what to think about it. But
then I didn't know you yet. You didn't know like
0:24:00.400,0:24:05.680
um but you not eating anything was actually
very important to the rest of the date.
0:24:07.200,0:24:12.240
So, oh god, dude. No, no, 100%. Cuz like, dude,
I just got off of work, dude. The last time I ate
0:24:12.240,0:24:17.600
was during my lunch time and that was like like
9. Yeah. So, like at at the factory lunchtime was
0:24:17.600,0:24:24.720
at 9:30. Dude, I didn't This was like This was
like 8:00 p.m. It's like 7 7 or 8:00 p.m. So,
0:24:24.720,0:24:30.880
you had not eaten and I was like, "Okay, I guess
I won't eat all of mine." But it was good. Like,
0:24:30.880,0:24:34.240
other than that, like the conversation was
good. We talked about van life, which you know,
0:24:34.240,0:24:38.080
I hope that when we listen back to this, we'll be
on our van life journey eventually. That's one of
0:24:38.080,0:24:42.560
our goals. Yeah. Oh my god. That was like that was
surprising actually that you were into van life
0:24:42.560,0:24:48.960
cuz that's not Dude, I I lit up like a [ __ ] like
firework, man, when you when you just mentioned
0:24:48.960,0:24:54.240
van life because I thought like that would be like
the most amazing thing to do when I when I find
0:24:54.240,0:24:58.560
a partner that like, you know, I that I want to
settle down with. Yeah. I was like so surprised. I
0:24:58.560,0:25:02.640
was like, "No way." Because like that's not if you
want to do van life and you're in a relationship
0:25:02.640,0:25:06.560
and the other person doesn't want to do it like
it's not happening. It's not happening. Yeah.
0:25:06.560,0:25:09.680
100%. Either you're not going to be with that
person or you're not going to do it at all. I
0:25:09.680,0:25:14.320
remember my heart just skipped a beat. Okay. Can
we Okay. There's a lot of moments throughout that
0:25:14.320,0:25:20.400
date where I felt were like this is this is like
a good recipe for like a good relationship. Things
0:25:20.400,0:25:26.720
are things are kind of lining up. Yeah. And I was
super in denial. And you were too. Yeah. Yeah.
0:25:26.720,0:25:33.680
Yeah. We were in denial. Yeah, let's keep back in
mind of like the nature of of oursel at the time.
0:25:33.680,0:25:36.560
We were just trying to have fun. We were just We
weren't looking for a relationship. We weren't
0:25:36.560,0:25:41.440
looking for a relationship. So, after Okay, so the
restaurant is kind of like downtown San Jose area,
0:25:41.440,0:25:45.760
right? So, we were pretty close to like where
you know the the like you know where people go
0:25:45.760,0:25:52.240
out in downtown San Jose. So, we went to a bar.
Yes. Um and like the the bar was also kind of a
0:25:52.240,0:25:55.680
restaurant. Like they had like tables, but then
there was also like a little seating lounge area
0:25:55.680,0:25:59.440
where we were going cuz we just wanted to get
drinks. We're in the corner. It was really cute,
0:25:59.440,0:26:02.400
really romantic. We were in the corner like
we were just drinking beers. Oh my god,
0:26:02.400,0:26:09.120
the ambiance of that whole was like amazing, dude.
Like, you know, low lighting, very lively. So,
0:26:09.120,0:26:15.840
it was like like white noise and like and
then so we had like we had two beers. We were
0:26:15.840,0:26:22.400
both drinking hazy IPAs. Oh, no. I think we had
three. Yeah. But during these beers, I was like,
0:26:22.400,0:26:27.760
you know, trying to send him signs. I was like, he
was so nervous. I was trying oblivious. You know,
0:26:27.760,0:26:30.960
I would touch him here and there and like,
you know, "Oh my god." Yeah. Do Exactly. Like,
0:26:30.960,0:26:35.040
"Oh my god." Yeah. Be like, "Oh my god." Yeah.
And like I I was getting super excited of the
0:26:35.040,0:26:38.800
conversation that we were having and you know, I
was getting kind of touchy because I'm getting a
0:26:38.800,0:26:43.120
lot of drinks in me and I was like, "Oh my god,
dude." Like you you touch me back. Yeah. Yeah.
0:26:43.120,0:26:48.560
Yeah. Oh my god. I touched your face. And then and
then he like grabbed my pal. I grabbed your face
0:26:48.560,0:26:53.920
like this and I thought he was going to kiss me,
but then he didn't. And that was like very late
0:26:53.920,0:26:58.400
into the night already. And like in my head, I
was going to drop you off home around like 10:00
0:26:58.400,0:27:03.520
p.m. cuz like I have work at [ __ ] 5:00 in the
morning. Dude, we were out till I know you Yeah,
0:27:03.520,0:27:07.520
we were there till closing. Yeah, our our bar
basically. Yeah, we were there till closing
0:27:07.520,0:27:12.480
because the bartender took a shot with us and he
definitely knew that we were on like a first date
0:27:12.480,0:27:19.360
or something cuz then he brought he brought over a
tequila shot. Yeah. Damn. that and and so imagine
0:27:19.360,0:27:26.720
that ruined this guy has not eaten in like almost
12 I ate more than you and I definitely ate like
0:27:26.720,0:27:31.040
I had a whole ass meal the next day dude that we
took over but he had not eaten for 12 hours. He
0:27:31.040,0:27:37.520
had three not just any beers but IPAs and then
the bartender comes over and gives us a tequila
0:27:37.520,0:27:42.080
shot which is so funny because that ended up
becoming our drink like a hazy IPA and a shot of
0:27:42.080,0:27:46.480
tequila that became like to this day too. I mean,
whenever we want to like whenever we want to like,
0:27:46.480,0:27:52.080
you know, have like a like a kind of night out,
that's how we start. Yeah. He gave us a tequila
0:27:52.080,0:27:57.040
shot. We took the shot and then we left and he
still hadn't kissed me yet. And so I was like I
0:27:57.040,0:28:01.360
was getting him. I'm like, you know, at the time
I was like, you know, I'm I'm pretty forward as
0:28:01.360,0:28:05.760
a person, but at the time I was like, dude, like
this date is going on so well. Like where and I
0:28:05.760,0:28:12.640
was being super respectful to you right now. Like
I I Okay. Okay. I Yeah, dude. Like at this point,
0:28:12.640,0:28:16.720
I did not want to treat you like any other like
woman and everything. I was like, "Dude, this
0:28:16.720,0:28:22.000
is such a respectable woman right now." Like I I
truly want to hang out with you. Like I like I was
0:28:22.000,0:28:27.600
s I was having so much fun just like just having
conversation with you or like um just figuring out
0:28:27.600,0:28:32.000
like things that we can do together. And that was
that got me super juiced just to know that like,
0:28:32.000,0:28:37.760
hey, maybe maybe I can hang out with her another
day. And yeah. And then what happened? And uh
0:28:37.760,0:28:45.760
we were Yeah, we left. We're walking out going
back to the car and um Karina was bold as ever,
0:28:45.760,0:28:50.800
you know, kind of like pushed me to the side of
the wall. Did not do that. Looked straight to me
0:28:50.800,0:28:57.360
in the eye like, "Hey, man. Hey, man." He didn't
kiss me. Well, basically, I just like he was We
0:28:57.360,0:29:01.280
were walking out. He was walking behind me and
like I turned around like once we got to the like
0:29:01.280,0:29:06.880
the street, I turned around and I just grabbed him
and I just kissed him. Yeah. And then it was Yeah.
0:29:06.880,0:29:14.240
magic. It was magic, you know. I was super drunk
at this point and like but yeah, we were like not
0:29:14.240,0:29:19.920
sober by now. So, yeah, it was it was great. And
I was like, "Wow." Okay, the unfortunate thing,
0:29:19.920,0:29:24.480
and this is why you don't have a date on a
Thursday, but the unfortunate thing is that he had
0:29:24.480,0:29:30.560
work the next day at like 5:00 a.m. I had work the
next day at like 8:30 or so. So, we had to call it
0:29:30.560,0:29:35.200
quits like before the night even like there was
so much potential in that night that we just like
0:29:35.200,0:29:40.720
couldn't pursue. So, we got our Ubers back and I
got home. Yeah. And then I ate the rest of my food
0:29:40.720,0:29:47.280
because I was so hungry. You went home and eat. I
went home like feeling like I was on cloud nine of
0:29:47.280,0:29:52.640
just pure happiness. I'm like because like I I got
to like a lot of bad days through Tinder. And I
0:29:52.640,0:29:59.440
thought like ain't no way the dating pool in like
in this area is this bad. No offense Bay Area,
0:29:59.440,0:30:05.520
but like anyways, I was home. I went straight to
my room. text you like uh like you know that that
0:30:05.520,0:30:10.240
I just got home you know like because that's the
normal thing to do. I was literally like this in
0:30:10.240,0:30:16.800
my bed waving my toes texting Karina like I just
got home and oh my god where have you been my
0:30:16.800,0:30:24.720
whole life I said that I I said that too. I said
it first. You did say it first. He's lying. So he
0:30:24.720,0:30:29.440
was you know like like twirling his feet. Yeah.
And then I texted him. I'm like oh my gosh like
0:30:29.440,0:30:34.400
where have you been my whole life? And that got
him all curly. Yeah, hella curly. You end up going
0:30:34.400,0:30:40.720
to work. And then, okay, the next day I was so
insanely hung over and I still went to work and it
0:30:40.720,0:30:46.320
was awful. But thankfully, I got off work at like
at the time I got off work at like 4:30 or so. Um,
0:30:46.320,0:30:52.080
so I just went home and slept. He called in
sick and I was like, "Bro, this is why I say
0:30:52.080,0:31:00.080
that I suffered because I had to go to work hung
over. I don't do this anymore, by the way. Really?
0:31:00.640,0:31:04.640
We don't even drink that much anymore. We don't
even drink that much anymore. Yeah. So, like I'm
0:31:04.640,0:31:08.640
like, you know, that morning I'm telling you like
I actually called in sick. Um, hey, but do you
0:31:08.640,0:31:14.320
want to like maybe hang out like over the weekend
and everything and I got rejected. You had plans
0:31:14.320,0:31:20.800
for that whole weekend to go out to like an event
and I was bummed out because like kind of ruined
0:31:20.800,0:31:27.360
my my plans, you know, from Thursday dating. Well,
if I had known your plan, I would have. I know you
0:31:27.360,0:31:32.480
should have. But yeah, I had a festival to go
to that weekend, so we couldn't hang out. And I
0:31:32.480,0:31:37.600
don't think the next time we hung out was was that
Tuesday? Oh, yeah. Cuz like, you know, I really
0:31:37.600,0:31:43.760
wanted to see him again after. And what did we
do? We decided to go uh roller skating. Oh, yeah.
0:31:43.760,0:31:48.400
Completely sober. Completely sober because um we
wanted to like, you know, reintroduce ourselves,
0:31:48.400,0:31:52.080
get to know each other more in a sober aspect.
And I thought like that was like one of the most
0:31:52.080,0:31:57.600
healthiest way to like reconnect after like having
Is that Roller Ring still or did it close? I think
0:31:57.600,0:32:02.320
it closed down just recently actually. That was a
really good day. We went roller skating and then
0:32:02.320,0:32:06.160
we found out more about each other like Yeah, we
like spent a lot of time just like sitting in the
0:32:06.160,0:32:10.160
car afterwards just like sharing music from
then on. Like we've been kind of like a bit
0:32:10.160,0:32:17.360
inseparable. Yeah, we went like mini golfing. We
went to like more restaurants. More restaurants.
0:32:17.360,0:32:25.200
Uh we went hiking a lot. Um Oh yeah, we So we went
on this hike in Santa Cruz at the Garden of Eden.
0:32:25.200,0:32:30.880
Shout out to those who know where that is. Um
it's kind of like a little creek river thing,
0:32:30.880,0:32:38.480
but there's like a little swimming hole. And so
he prepared like a lot of food for a picnic and
0:32:38.480,0:32:43.600
um I brought paints cuz I like to paint. So we
had a picnic and we painted and it was lovely.
0:32:43.600,0:32:49.520
It was amazing. We we brought wine. I made um
sushi and at this point Yeah. Vegetarian. Yeah.
0:32:49.520,0:32:56.320
At this point like you know I am a bit more well
informed of like like how food is prepared for
0:32:56.320,0:33:00.720
like you know being a vegetarian. So I remember
just getting up early and my family was visiting
0:33:00.720,0:33:09.680
our place and I remember just um making sushi um
mush Oh yeah and um stuffed mushrooms as well to
0:33:09.680,0:33:14.400
prepare prepare for the date. So I brought that
over. You brought the whole um painting supplies.
0:33:14.400,0:33:19.440
Uh I remember we decided to trek to the middle
of that swimming hole because there there was a
0:33:19.440,0:33:23.920
small island. So like we were carrying all our
stuff in our backpack while going through like
0:33:23.920,0:33:28.240
a whole backpack in like canvases. Yeah. Walking
through the water and and just decided to paint
0:33:28.240,0:33:34.640
and have a bit of a picnic there. I almost fell
and like you know floated down the river. I like
0:33:34.640,0:33:39.760
tripped and fell like when we were crossing the
river trying to get to the Wait, I know cuz like
0:33:39.760,0:33:46.000
we were when we were done painting we had to like
carry Yeah. Cuz like our canvases were Yeah. Yeah.
0:33:46.000,0:33:51.840
But Oh my god. Yeah. But from that point on, we
were seeing each other every weekend. Honestly, we
0:33:51.840,0:33:55.840
keep saying that we were there to like, you know,
hanging out so much, but that was only like a few
0:33:55.840,0:34:00.800
weeks. Yeah. Before we started like, you know,
before we started like, you know, dating dating.
0:34:00.800,0:34:05.840
Yeah. It's funny cuz we went there today. We went
to the spa today, but he took me to this like spa
0:34:05.840,0:34:12.000
in Palo Alto um that has like hot tubs and like
massages and cold plunges and stuff like that. But
0:34:12.000,0:34:19.120
he just rented out a room that had a hot tub for
an hour. Hot tub. Was it just hot tub? Uh hot hot
0:34:19.120,0:34:23.680
tub and like sauna. Yeah. Yeah. Cold. No, didn't
have a cold plan this time. I I think this was
0:34:23.680,0:34:28.880
like the day that we were basically going to like,
you know, call it official with each other. Well,
0:34:28.880,0:34:33.200
no, we didn't know that at the time. It was just
another date. Honestly, it was just another date.
0:34:33.200,0:34:39.520
But what made this date special was that while we
were like, you know, in this like romantic spa,
0:34:39.520,0:34:44.400
um I told him that I loved him. And it was like
really hard for me to say actually cuz I was like
0:34:44.400,0:34:48.320
[ __ ] terrified. And it's funny because with the
whole the whole dating thing, I think we were like
0:34:48.320,0:34:52.960
very in denial, like you know, trying to fall
each other with each other like super fast. Um,
0:34:52.960,0:34:57.600
we had it was really fast. Yeah, it was really
fast and we had we had our walls. We had our
0:34:57.600,0:35:03.040
reasons to like not like like I'm not trying to be
in a relationship right now. Like it was a lot of
0:35:03.040,0:35:08.720
accepting of wanting to fall down, take that risk,
take that risk and fall, you know? But I think
0:35:08.720,0:35:15.440
something that um like I came to realize really
quickly is that there's always a risk, right?
0:35:15.440,0:35:21.680
There's always a risk of getting hurt. And I think
this is like, you know, what makes it's what makes
0:35:21.680,0:35:26.720
dating nowadays so hard is because everyone's
so scared to get hurt. And I think we definitely
0:35:26.720,0:35:33.440
felt that too. But I am a pretty unsure person,
you know, like I have to get second opinions on
0:35:33.440,0:35:39.040
a lot of things. But like with you, I was never
like it like it truly felt like the risk one, the
0:35:39.040,0:35:44.080
risk is worth it. So like if I were to get hurt
from this, you know, one, I knew that you were
0:35:44.080,0:35:48.080
just a good person. You know, by this time I knew
that you were a good person and I knew that you
0:35:48.080,0:35:54.560
wouldn't like hurt me. If it ended up not working
out, I couldn't see it being because you were a
0:35:54.560,0:35:58.880
bad person or that you would like intentionally
try to hurt me. Like I felt very safe with you.
0:35:58.880,0:36:04.720
Me telling you that I loved you like literally two
or 3 weeks after we met it. I think it was scary
0:36:04.720,0:36:10.000
because I was so sure about it and it was so fast.
Like I was scared because I was like, "Is this
0:36:10.000,0:36:13.360
even real? Is it even possible to fall in love
with someone this quickly?" Yeah. You know, but
0:36:13.360,0:36:20.080
it felt so so natural. So natural. Yeah. It just
felt super natural. It It felt like um normally
0:36:20.080,0:36:25.280
you don't get that kind of like experience where
you're like, "Wow, this is literally everything
0:36:25.280,0:36:30.400
checks out of my box, man. Like this is some this
is this is truly someone I can see. I can stand
0:36:30.400,0:36:35.280
by proudly side by side. This is someone I would
love to just hang out with. This is someone that I
0:36:35.280,0:36:40.800
know my mom, my parents would be proud of to have,
you know? It just felt like what could go wrong,
0:36:40.800,0:36:45.840
you know? Like Yeah. Like what could actually go
wrong? Yeah. Like the risk was worth well worth it
0:36:45.840,0:36:50.800
knowing that like how could it fail, you know?
Like Yeah. It was funny actually because like
0:36:50.800,0:36:55.920
so one of the first times that we hung out with
each other um I had asked him I was I was like,
0:36:55.920,0:37:02.000
"Hey, are you seeing anyone else?" And he was
like, "No." Oh. And I was like, and I was like,
0:37:02.000,0:37:09.600
only you, girl. And I was like, well, I am. I was
like, oh, good. Okay. Yeah. He's like, oh, yeah, I
0:37:09.600,0:37:15.200
am, too. And then like I I think that was like the
like the first time I ever lied to her. I think I
0:37:15.200,0:37:18.960
was like, you know, I was like casually seeing
like a few other people. And then I told him,
0:37:18.960,0:37:22.320
I'm like, you know, I don't actually think I want
to see anyone else. I think I just want to see
0:37:22.320,0:37:28.560
you. Oh god, dude. And he was like, what do you
remember your reaction to that? I at that moment
0:37:28.560,0:37:33.280
I knew like there's truly nothing to hide from
you. Yeah. Like I hid I hid the fact that I was
0:37:33.280,0:37:39.360
talking to other women, but you didn't. And like
just me knowing how open you were like that really
0:37:39.360,0:37:44.560
set the stage and tone like how I would want this
relationship to be or like around honesty. Yeah.
0:37:44.560,0:37:49.280
Around honesty. And and it really became that way.
Yeah. Like I would just I will tell you things.
0:37:49.280,0:37:52.720
Now you're like too honest. Yeah. I'm way too
honest. Like I would tell her things I know she's
0:37:52.720,0:38:00.320
gonna get mad. of like like hey love um I bought
this. That's yeah that's it. That's all that's
0:38:00.320,0:38:04.960
all. Look at this. I know you don't like it when I
do this but here I'm doing this. You know that was
0:38:04.960,0:38:09.840
something that was surprising to me because I was
like I don't want to see anyone else. I remember
0:38:09.840,0:38:13.840
you mentioned that you were going to delete the
apps like after our first date or something you
0:38:13.840,0:38:18.000
were to delete the apps and like that didn't
scare me. I was like, this whole thing was just
0:38:18.000,0:38:22.560
surprising to me. And I think that's what made it
scary. It was because it was surprising, but like
0:38:22.560,0:38:28.080
I also felt very solid. And so when I said that I
didn't want to date anyone else, I didn't expect
0:38:28.080,0:38:31.280
you to stop dating other people. I was just
telling you, I was like, I don't want to date
0:38:31.280,0:38:35.760
anyone else. Like, but like you don't have to. You
don't have to also stop dating other people. No,
0:38:35.760,0:38:40.000
100%. I mean, like just because you did it doesn't
mean I have to do the same thing. But like when
0:38:40.000,0:38:46.240
you when you were openly enough to like mention
all that, I I thought it was very brave of you to
0:38:46.240,0:38:53.040
um want to make that statement. This girl right
here like I love hang love hanging out with um is
0:38:53.040,0:38:56.880
willing to like you know be a bit more exclusive
with me and of course I'm going to respect you the
0:38:56.880,0:39:03.280
same way and and want to do the same way too. So
I you know I I followed your steps. So yeah like I
0:39:03.280,0:39:07.680
had told him that I loved him and then it was like
you were waiting for me to say it. Like it was so
0:39:07.680,0:39:14.160
nice. He like you felt it. Yeah. I mean, we felt
it. We felt it. We felt it. I definitely wasn't
0:39:14.160,0:39:19.680
like planning on like doing any like first steps
or whatnot because I was super scared of like
0:39:19.680,0:39:27.280
rejection, not going to lie. Mhm. Because like I
can just feel myself just like slowly like giving
0:39:27.280,0:39:31.920
myself up to you. And I think how at that time
I was kind of just scared of my own like like it
0:39:31.920,0:39:36.720
took me like it took me like a good like five or
more minutes just to like cuz I was just standing
0:39:36.720,0:39:39.600
there or sitting there cuz we were in the hot
tub. I was like sitting there and I was just like
0:39:39.600,0:39:45.760
I have to tell you something and then like silence
and he was you were so patient and waiting for me.
0:39:45.760,0:39:50.640
Dude, remember I tried I was going to say I love
you at that Irish club. Oh my god, you're right.
0:39:50.640,0:39:55.920
And I was like okay. You stopped me like don't say
it. I know. I'm like don't say it. Okay. What did
0:39:55.920,0:40:02.480
you say? I also said, "Hey, there's something I I
want to tell you." And I was like, "No, not yet."
0:40:02.480,0:40:08.480
That's why you let me because I I actually didn't
let you. Like, yeah. You're like, "Stop it." Okay.
0:40:08.480,0:40:13.040
This was like a week, though. This was like a week
after. Yeah. I I feel like I was like I was like
0:40:13.040,0:40:20.640
still trying to come to terms with my feelings.
Anyways, so after the hot tub spa, I went over
0:40:20.640,0:40:27.520
to your place and we watched Squid Game, right? Oh
my god. It just came out. Um uh we were preparing
0:40:27.520,0:40:34.000
dinner. So we're making a vegetarian version of
chicken katsu which is tofu katsu. So tofu katsu
0:40:34.000,0:40:38.720
and curry and curry was so good which we still
make to this day. So then that was the day that
0:40:38.720,0:40:43.920
we decided to be our anniversary. And then the
next day we went to that Van Go museum and Van Go
0:40:43.920,0:40:48.640
like installation thing. It was a really special
Yeah. A special day. A lot a lot of the moments of
0:40:48.640,0:40:54.480
our early dating uh stages really like cultivated
the kind of aspect our relationship was heading
0:40:54.480,0:41:00.320
into. Like a lot of it were like, you know, being
able to appreciate art. A lot of it were like to
0:41:00.320,0:41:07.360
appreciate nature. Nature and traveling. Traveling
was huge for like the first year, but yeah,
0:41:07.360,0:41:12.000
travel ended up being like a pretty like huge
thing. Like in the first year that we were dating,
0:41:12.000,0:41:20.720
we went to uh we were doing a whole lot of um
traveling outside of the Bay Area. Yeah. Um,
0:41:20.720,0:41:31.120
we did Monteray, we did Big Sir, Pismo. When did
you ask me about Italy? So, um, it was Valentine's
0:41:31.120,0:41:37.360
Day, so I decided to take you out to, um, Napa
Napa Valley. So, in California, that's that's
0:41:37.360,0:41:44.400
the very Yeah. wine country, the vineyards over
there. And so, we were driving up to, um, Napa
0:41:44.400,0:41:48.400
Valley. And at one point I think I asked you the
question like if there was a place that you would
0:41:48.400,0:41:53.520
want to travel where would you want to go and you
were like Italy. And then we just looked at each
0:41:53.520,0:42:01.040
other like like you down you down. Mind you this
we had been together for three months. No October,
0:42:01.040,0:42:04.160
November, December, January. Four months. Four
months at this point. Four months. He had spent
0:42:04.160,0:42:08.640
the holidays with my cuz it so his family lives in
the in Hawaii. I was going to say the Philippines.
0:42:08.640,0:42:14.240
I know. His family lives in Hawaii and so he ended
up spending the holidays with me which and my
0:42:14.240,0:42:19.040
family which you know was pretty cool. Shout out
to the family. It was kind of like a pipe dream.
0:42:19.040,0:42:22.160
We were just like, you know, like we've only been
dating for like four months. Like we're not going
0:42:22.160,0:42:29.840
to go on this like international trip together,
but like why not? Why not like entertain the like
0:42:29.840,0:42:35.600
idea? Dude, after the whole Valentine's, we kind
of just sat down and like really digest like what
0:42:35.600,0:42:40.560
can we do to make this happen on your birthday?
Yeah, knowing that your birthday's in a few months
0:42:40.560,0:42:46.800
and we're planning this two week international
trip. I remembered we just bought the tickets.
0:42:46.800,0:42:53.520
We started planning this whole thing and before
we knew it, we were heading to Italy. Yeah. Kind
0:42:53.520,0:42:57.520
of like flew by hella quick to be honest. I have
no idea how that happened, but we we went to Italy
0:42:57.520,0:43:02.640
for a week. We started in Milan and then went
all the way back down to Ron. Yeah. 10 days or
0:43:02.640,0:43:08.800
something. Italy was huge because like we realized
that we travel really really well together. You
0:43:08.800,0:43:13.840
could be compatible in everything else, but then
you could just like not travel well together.
0:43:13.840,0:43:18.800
Yeah. And um Oh my god, we make the most awesome
team when it comes to traveling. I think we also
0:43:18.800,0:43:23.280
like fill in each other's gaps. Yeah, that's what
I'm trying to say. I think something that we both
0:43:23.280,0:43:29.040
have is that we're very uh spontaneous. Like we
don't care too much about food. We just like walk
0:43:29.040,0:43:33.520
down the street and try to find Love that. So, we
have the same idea when it comes to like what kind
0:43:33.520,0:43:37.440
of venture we want to have. So, like just being
able to be like, "Yeah, let's go eat around this
0:43:37.440,0:43:42.640
area." Yeah. And um which actually is kind of hard
to do in Europe because like a lot of the places
0:43:42.640,0:43:47.760
you need a reservation, but like if you need a
reservation, you just go to a different place, you
0:43:47.760,0:43:52.880
know, and like some of the best food that we've
had were non-reservations. Was non-reservation
0:43:52.880,0:43:57.920
like literally walking around the city. Yeah, that
was that was a really good trip. That was really
0:43:57.920,0:44:02.240
good. Yeah, it was a really good trip. Yeah. And
then what what was we went to Greece after? Yeah,
0:44:02.240,0:44:05.920
we went to Greece for my birthday later on that
year. Yeah, we were celebrating your birthday
0:44:05.920,0:44:12.880
there and so we went to Greece like July was
Italy and we went to Greece in November and I
0:44:12.880,0:44:17.680
think somewhere in between we went to Mexico City
or was that after? It was after that was after it.
0:44:17.680,0:44:23.760
That was after Well, we also went to Mexico City
at some point. Um, so we we basically traveled
0:44:23.760,0:44:28.000
a lot like at least in like the first year of
our relationship. Like almost like every year
0:44:28.000,0:44:33.200
relationship. I think the only year that we didn't
No, we travel for every year we have. Yeah. If it
0:44:33.200,0:44:37.680
wasn't traveling to like a different country was
traveling to Hawaii a lot to meet your family and
0:44:37.680,0:44:42.480
be with your family. We went to Hawaii like three
times this year. Yeah, we went to Hawaii a lot.
0:44:42.480,0:44:47.360
But yeah, so our whole relationship is based on
like being adventurous. We just want to be able
0:44:47.360,0:44:53.600
to experience the world as as we live live through
it. And um yeah, if we're not like traveling like
0:44:53.600,0:44:59.200
via airplane, we like to camp. Yeah, we love
to camp. We love to um also do a lot of like
0:44:59.200,0:45:03.680
the snowboarding now that we picked up together.
Yeah, snowboarding was fun. Yeah, snowboarding was
0:45:03.680,0:45:07.840
so fun learning together with Yeah, cuz we both
didn't know anything about snowboarding. Like I
0:45:07.840,0:45:14.000
I can't stress enough how good of a team that we
are together and like it shows up a lot in our in
0:45:14.000,0:45:20.400
different ways. Yeah, we will always like face
issues. Um we always flexible. We are flexible.
0:45:20.400,0:45:25.520
Super flex. We're Oh my god. Yeah. How did How
did we forget that word? We always say that,
0:45:25.520,0:45:29.600
too. No. Okay. You know why? Very adaptable.
Should we talk about the story? What story? So,
0:45:29.600,0:45:34.320
you know, one of the times that we realized that
we're really, really adaptable. Camping. Yes. So,
0:45:34.320,0:45:37.840
was it our first camping trip together? It was our
first camp. So, our first camping trip, I'm going
0:45:37.840,0:45:43.520
to roast you a little bit. So, our first camping
trip, um, we went to Sequoia National Park and
0:45:43.520,0:45:51.920
King's Canyon. So Brad has a Tesla as you know so
so predictably has a Tesla Bay Area tech tech and
0:45:51.920,0:45:58.880
so you know Teslas are an electric car obviously
and we were going to use his car cuz I have a
0:45:58.880,0:46:05.200
leased car so like I only have a certain amount
wait no sorry I had a little car. Yeah, I had a
0:46:05.200,0:46:09.600
very little car with a tiny little engine and so I
was like, I don't really know. I don't really know
0:46:09.600,0:46:13.520
if like this is a car that I could take camping
like in the mountains and so we were just going to
0:46:13.520,0:46:20.560
take your car and like my one request of you was
to check to see if there were chargers in the area
0:46:20.560,0:46:26.080
and he told me that there were and so I was like
great. So we packed up the car. Sequoa is like
0:46:26.080,0:46:33.600
what like four or five hours away. Um and it's not
easy to get to. It's not like okay what's a pine
0:46:33.600,0:46:37.760
for example? Pinnacles is like a national park
where it's like very up in the mountain. You kind
0:46:37.760,0:46:41.840
of get there and like you're there. You don't have
to drive around. But Sequoia and King's Canyon,
0:46:41.840,0:46:46.880
they are two separate national parks. So, you
do have to drive a bit to get to one park to
0:46:46.880,0:46:53.360
another. So, we get there and I'm like, "Bro,
the charger that you saw wasn't a supercharger.
0:46:53.360,0:46:58.240
It was like one of those chargers that takes
like all night." Yeah. And there's only one.
0:46:58.240,0:47:04.720
There's only one one up there in the mountain. And
I I can I can continue this story. So like yeah,
0:47:04.720,0:47:09.360
I was tasked to find if we were able to charge
in between it all and my perspective like how far
0:47:09.360,0:47:14.960
apart these these chargers are were like Yeah. I
didn't really think about it too too hard honestly
0:47:14.960,0:47:19.200
because like when And the charger was an hour
away. Yeah. I didn't think about like the amount
0:47:19.200,0:47:24.560
of things that we're bringing and how high I'm
driving up. So like Oh yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So like
0:47:24.560,0:47:30.000
a lot of factors played in a role where like I I'm
not going to have enough charge for like a whole
0:47:30.000,0:47:34.560
lot of things. So like realistically when we got
there by the time we got to our camping spot I was
0:47:34.560,0:47:40.560
like very low charge. I have enough charge just
to go to the next charging area and that's away
0:47:40.560,0:47:46.400
from the national park and I was going back into
the city. So that next morning we made a we made
0:47:46.400,0:47:52.720
a really hard decision a hard decision and and
call it like hey let's let's just get a rental.
0:47:52.720,0:47:59.920
Mhm. So, we left all our camping spot things at um
at the spot and we drove down to get a to Oh, we
0:47:59.920,0:48:05.600
drove down to charge. We drove to a rental area.
We just left my car at the rental spot. So, we
0:48:05.600,0:48:10.400
we rented from Fresno airport because that's the
closest city. And when you rent from an airport,
0:48:10.400,0:48:14.480
there's like, you know, parking. There's parking.
So, we just like left the car there and we rented
0:48:14.480,0:48:20.560
a Tacoma. Yeah. Which, you know, kind of sucked
because it like we wasted the entire day cuz like
0:48:20.560,0:48:27.040
Fresno is not close. like it's like at least like
a few hours. And so we drove back with our new car
0:48:27.040,0:48:31.600
and then we just like, you know, enjoyed the rest
of the camping trip. But like it was frustrating,
0:48:31.600,0:48:38.400
but like for us to like figure out what to do
considering that like there was only so much
0:48:38.400,0:48:41.680
that you can do. There was only so much that we
could do. Like it was already done. Like we were
0:48:41.680,0:48:46.000
already there with the Tesla and we had to like
figure something out. Like every time we we run
0:48:46.000,0:48:50.640
into something like that, we're able to like keep
our head on our shoulders and like try to figure
0:48:50.640,0:48:56.160
something out like like we understand what's most
important to us like in those moments. For me,
0:48:56.160,0:49:00.960
what I would say is um during that time this is
our first camping trip. Let's make this the best
0:49:00.960,0:49:05.120
as we can. What are we willing to do? You know,
like what are like what kind of boundaries are we
0:49:05.120,0:49:10.400
okay with? And with the limited option, we just
like okay to make this the most important thing,
0:49:10.400,0:49:14.800
we do have to sacrifice oursel to do all this.
Yeah, we do have to sacrifice those like few
0:49:14.800,0:49:18.960
hours because like what else are we going to
do? Extra money to do so and being okay with
0:49:18.960,0:49:24.880
the mistakes that we we we have I have done.
We've we've I've made mistakes too. Yeah. No,
0:49:24.880,0:49:29.360
100%. We all make mistakes but then like we don't
we look at each other like oh my god and like
0:49:29.360,0:49:35.360
hold it against you. Bad bad person. Yeah. Like no
we're like okay like okay like what do we do now?
0:49:35.360,0:49:40.560
Yeah. How can we resolve this? Like okay do do you
understand this is an issue? I understand it's an
0:49:40.560,0:49:46.640
issue. Okay. You do. Okay, we'll we'll talk about
this later. Let's handle the situation now. Handle
0:49:46.640,0:49:51.520
the situation and we make space for it later on,
too. And it's very comforting knowing that like
0:49:51.520,0:49:55.680
we're not like attacking each other at all. Like,
oh my god, you're so stupid. Like, why do you do
0:49:55.680,0:49:59.840
this? Instead of like attacking each other during
that moment, we're like remedying like there's
0:49:59.840,0:50:03.680
you're making no progress. It's not Exactly.
It's not productive. Yeah, it's not productive,
0:50:03.680,0:50:07.520
dude. Like, if I'm going to yell at you like how
like oh my god, you're you're so [ __ ] wrong.
0:50:07.520,0:50:10.800
Why the [ __ ] you did this? We could have been
doing this. We could have been doing there. Like,
0:50:10.800,0:50:15.120
dude, that's like 3 minutes of like of us wasting
time being unproductive where we could have spent
0:50:15.120,0:50:19.280
3 minutes of literally trying to figure out
figuring this [ __ ] out, man. Should we talk
0:50:19.280,0:50:24.880
about then like how do we handle conflict and
stuff? Because I think like something that I'm
0:50:24.880,0:50:32.000
proud of is how we communicate. Yeah. Something
that I learned about you really early on is that
0:50:32.000,0:50:38.640
you're such an understanding person. Oh, thank
you. You as well. I try to be. Yeah. Yeah,
0:50:38.640,0:50:44.400
like if I could describe anything that I felt
towards you, especially in the beginning,
0:50:44.400,0:50:50.080
is like safe. Like you just make me feel really
safe. Thank you. And so like I never felt like
0:50:50.080,0:50:56.080
I had to like I I could always tell you how I was
feeling and you were always on the receiving end,
0:50:56.080,0:51:00.880
you were always like very like gracious like,
"Thank you so much for telling me, you know,
0:51:00.880,0:51:06.400
thank you so much for sharing that with me. Like I
can tell that that was really hard." You just make
0:51:06.400,0:51:11.440
so much safety that makes it easy for me to tell
you things. That's never that's never a fear of
0:51:11.440,0:51:17.920
mine that I'm gonna like I'm gonna like upset you
with how I feel. Okay, give me a wa right now. But
0:51:17.920,0:51:24.160
uh dude, like Okay, I can talk about how much that
makes me feel good inside. Well, I mean, thank
0:51:24.160,0:51:29.120
you, by the way. I don't know. Kind of lost the
words for a bit, but um yeah, I told you that. No,
0:51:29.120,0:51:33.600
I know. But it just it still feels nice to hear
it, you know, and I I feel the same way with you.
0:51:33.600,0:51:38.960
like um I feel very comfortable enough to express
like you know the mistakes I made. Um I feel very
0:51:38.960,0:51:44.320
comfortable in like being able to express whatever
situation comes by. I mean we've been in a lot of
0:51:44.320,0:51:51.440
situation where like let's just say remember
that one time we were uh at like Comanche Lake
0:51:51.440,0:51:55.920
Comanche for the first time where I got you where
we're using your paddle board for the first time
0:51:55.920,0:52:01.600
there. Yeah. Remember I got my car stuck there
with the rock. Yeah. Yeah. So context. So,
0:52:01.600,0:52:07.120
we went to this lake that I grew up going to and
we brought his Tesla. This is a recurring theme
0:52:07.120,0:52:10.400
actually. We just shouldn't take your car to like
outdoorsy things. That was like the last time we
0:52:10.400,0:52:16.400
ever did actually. We got stuck. So, like he
back he backed into I backed into a rock and
0:52:16.400,0:52:22.560
and my and the rock was like like really raised
up and I was like it was on my um my side skirt
0:52:22.560,0:52:29.040
of my vehicle and it really dug into there and um
basically his car was stuck like his tires were
0:52:29.040,0:52:34.240
up in the air. Yeah. So basically, um I was trying
to get some help. So I asked like a bunch of like
0:52:34.240,0:52:39.120
these bunch of people that were like super drunk
like, "Hey, can you guys help us out?" And um they
0:52:39.120,0:52:43.040
wanted to do it one way where like it's going to
be damaging to my car. They basically wanted to
0:52:43.040,0:52:49.040
pull it from where the tires were like up in the
air. They wanted to pull it out, but then that
0:52:49.040,0:52:53.360
would like literally scratch the entire bottom of
the car. So the direction where they would want to
0:52:53.360,0:52:59.200
pull my vehicle would cause like my whole entire
battery to be like super damaged at this point.
0:52:59.200,0:53:05.120
And um and I wasn't willing to like pay for all
that. And they were being very aggressive in like
0:53:05.120,0:53:09.600
wanting to do it their way because they believe
there were the it was the right way. Oh my god.
0:53:09.600,0:53:12.400
It was and he was just like I don't want to do it
that way. And and then they were just like they're
0:53:12.400,0:53:15.680
just like fine then we're not going to help. Yeah.
Dude, they're being very aggressive. It was so
0:53:15.680,0:53:21.040
annoying. It was like we'll help you but only on
terms where like we were able to see this amount
0:53:21.040,0:53:27.040
of destruction and I wasn't down for it at all.
And dude, they're like it really upset you. Yeah,
0:53:27.040,0:53:32.000
I was really upset because background I'm a I'm
a mechanic too. I have a degree in automotive and
0:53:32.000,0:53:36.960
whatnot blah blah blah. And like these guys were
like throwing up like excuses like we know better
0:53:36.960,0:53:41.600
because I am a mechanic and like their their
partners were like their girlfriends was like
0:53:41.600,0:53:46.480
he knows how to he knows cars more than anybody.
He works on it every day so he knows what's best
0:53:46.480,0:53:52.960
for the vehicle. I kept quiet about myself.
I didn't want to be like me too. I genuinely
0:53:52.960,0:53:58.880
like I don't know how he did it. If it was me,
I would have been like, "Shut okay." Cuz okay,
0:53:58.880,0:54:04.160
I could have easily said like, "Hey, I'm a
mechanic, too." And and if you are a mechanic,
0:54:04.160,0:54:08.880
you know how bad this [ __ ] is. Kind of thing.
But what was I going to get out of it? Honestly,
0:54:08.880,0:54:12.400
like if I were going to like, you know, you
know, put my chest out and be like, "Hey, I am
0:54:12.400,0:54:18.000
a mechanic, too." That would not solve anything.
I would rather listen to that other guy who was
0:54:18.000,0:54:24.400
nice enough to help us out, who tosses cars for
a living. I can work on cars all day. I know how
0:54:24.400,0:54:29.120
to work on cars, but do I know how to properly
tow this vehicle out with the limited supplies
0:54:29.120,0:54:37.280
that I have? No. But okay, so what happened
after we were What the point of the story? Um
0:54:37.280,0:54:42.960
um yeah, what I forgot you were talking about
feelings. Oh, no, no, no. Um it's it was through
0:54:42.960,0:54:47.440
that whole situation where we looked at each other
and like we were both following each other's lead.
0:54:47.440,0:54:51.840
what I'm trying to say. Um, we were being good
teamwork where we were not trying to like be
0:54:51.840,0:54:56.400
the more aggressive type in that situation. We
weren't trying to like pick fights or anybody
0:54:56.400,0:55:02.960
like we were holding each other's ground. We were
getting each other's back. Yeah. I honestly I was
0:55:02.960,0:55:07.440
getting really activated by the whole thing and
I you know me I would have gone off but I think
0:55:07.440,0:55:11.120
it was your thing so I was trying to follow your
lead. You know you were trying to be the bigger
0:55:11.120,0:55:16.320
person. and you were trying to like stay calm
and I was like, "Okay, like if I blow up here,
0:55:16.320,0:55:20.320
that's actually not that's going to make things
so much worse. Like it's going to stress you out.
0:55:20.320,0:55:24.400
You're going to have to like deal with me now on
top of dealing with all these other people." Yeah.
0:55:24.400,0:55:28.960
So like I like moments like that where like I was
looking at you like where you're at and then you
0:55:28.960,0:55:33.280
you look calm. You're you looked at me and we just
looked at each other. It was just like a feedback
0:55:33.280,0:55:37.920
loop like a positive. We were just like calming
each other down. It felt small but I guess like
0:55:37.920,0:55:42.800
it felt Yeah. like like the teamwork around that
like it happens in the most smallest areas and
0:55:42.800,0:55:48.400
the most biggest areas. I am curious if I can ask
you a question because I have an answer for this
0:55:48.400,0:55:55.840
question but like what is something that I helped
you heal from cuz I have something that you helped
0:55:55.840,0:56:02.160
me heal from. Oh wow that's a really good one. Uh
dude everything from my past. You helped me heal
0:56:02.160,0:56:07.600
from like what I assume what a relationship is.
Not trying to like put down my past relationship,
0:56:07.600,0:56:14.320
but like I believe my ex and I can agree that we
were definitely both being toxic with each other
0:56:14.320,0:56:20.800
because we both had like a um our own self pride
or ego in that relationship would caused us to
0:56:20.800,0:56:28.800
like you know have such um toxic environment and
um during those times um that was my views of like
0:56:28.800,0:56:34.640
what it means to be a relationship or like like it
was just that's just how relationships are. Yeah.
0:56:34.640,0:56:39.440
And um like you know how like how like the bar
was like so low when it came to like how thankful
0:56:39.440,0:56:43.760
I was for like even the smallest things that you
you're able to do for me. Okay. Literally I would
0:56:43.760,0:56:48.400
like sometimes I would like plug in your phone or
I would like get you water and you're like that's
0:56:48.400,0:56:53.120
so nice and I'm like what do you mean? Yeah. I
still to this day I still think it was very nice.
0:56:53.120,0:57:00.240
My view of what it means to be in a relationship
was changing every moment being with you. And
0:57:00.240,0:57:06.080
I thank you so much for being so patient with me
because like I had a lot of insecurities in myself
0:57:06.080,0:57:10.240
that I didn't realize I had until I was getting
into the relationship. I thought I was, you know,
0:57:10.240,0:57:13.520
being able I thought like just being being on
my own, I was able to heal like these moments,
0:57:13.520,0:57:19.520
but I never thought like it it made a lot more
sense like I was only able to heal when I'm with
0:57:19.520,0:57:24.880
somebody in this relationship because it takes
two to heal when it comes to like anything like
0:57:24.880,0:57:30.800
reparative. Yeah. Yes. Correct. Oh, he's so well
spoken. He must be the husband of a therapist. Oh,
0:57:30.800,0:57:35.760
how might be? Huh? Yeah. Learn very well. No,
that's that's so true though. You can do as
0:57:35.760,0:57:41.600
much healing as you can, but like there are only
things that are going to come up when you're in
0:57:41.600,0:57:46.960
a relationship with someone. Yeah. You you gave
me so much space and so much time to grow within
0:57:46.960,0:57:51.760
that. And I thank you so much because just now
just talking about just realizing how much growth
0:57:51.760,0:57:57.440
it has been since then and the amount of like
trust I have for you, the amount of comfort I
0:57:57.440,0:58:02.880
have for you and like just where my mental my
mental um health is at right now is so much
0:58:02.880,0:58:08.720
different. I'm like able to like, you know, sleep
so soundly at night and go about my day without
0:58:08.720,0:58:14.080
like having like a thought in the world where your
skin has cleared. Oh, I know. Oh, yeah. He used to
0:58:14.080,0:58:20.640
get really bad um acne breakouts. Uh not stress.
Yeah. Stress. It's been lovely. Yeah. It's been a
0:58:20.640,0:58:25.520
lovely journey knowing what it mean what it means
to be in a healthy relationship. Partnership.
0:58:25.520,0:58:34.240
Partnership. Mhm. Well, for me, something that
was like I had to learn was that I could be
0:58:34.240,0:58:41.840
accepted like without having to change anything. I
think something that surprised me was how I guess
0:58:41.840,0:58:49.680
accepting you were like things that, you know,
maybe I felt embarrassed about. I don't know. I
0:58:49.680,0:58:56.160
just felt like to be in a relationship meant to
like like lose parts of yourself, if that makes
0:58:56.160,0:59:01.920
sense. I'm a huge fan girl, right? I am a huge fan
girl. And it's not that I'm ashamed of that part
0:59:01.920,0:59:09.120
of myself, but like I um I don't really share that
with a lot of people because it's like it's a lot.
0:59:09.120,0:59:14.000
Um I I'm just I'm just really passionate. Like I'm
passionate about the things that I'm passionate
0:59:14.000,0:59:19.520
about and that's a lot. I'm passionate about a
lot of things. I've always toned that down. I've
0:59:19.520,0:59:24.400
also been like I've struggled with like body image
stuff, mental health stuff, and I like don't like
0:59:24.400,0:59:31.920
talking about that very much. But you've always
been so like just accepting of things that like I
0:59:31.920,0:59:37.280
otherwise would have been ashamed about or I don't
like talking about. I think I've learned how to be
0:59:37.280,0:59:44.400
like my full authentic self with you and I don't
think I've ever gotten to do that ever. And so
0:59:44.400,0:59:52.240
I'm a very introverted person. I cannot be around
someone for too long before I like my battery goes
0:59:52.240,0:59:59.120
out. Same like that. But like you like I always
I always think about you just like being like
0:59:59.120,1:00:07.200
an extension of me. And so when we're together it
doesn't feel like I'm socializing. Yeah, dude. Oh
1:00:07.200,1:00:11.520
my god. Like I can't stress enough like how much
you make me feel that way because I also like have
1:00:11.520,1:00:17.040
like a very low um social battery. Social battery.
Like let's just say like let's just say like if
1:00:17.040,1:00:20.640
I'm hanging out with somebody for x amount of
time, dude. Like I'll like there's going to be a
1:00:20.640,1:00:26.320
point where like I'm just going to like just sign
off and like have like no emotional attachment to
1:00:26.320,1:00:29.680
like whatever conversation that you're just going
to stop being you're going to like log off. You're
1:00:29.680,1:00:33.360
going to go offline. Yeah. I'm not trying to be
present at all like in in this sense. And like
1:00:33.360,1:00:38.880
that's the time where like I got to go home. And
with you, I have never to felt that. Yeah, dude.
1:00:38.880,1:00:43.920
Like it just felt like I was hanging out with
myself. Actually, like, hey, I need like a like
1:00:43.920,1:00:48.240
you just talk out loud or you think out loud. And
I think I think out loud, too. You do. And then
1:00:48.240,1:00:53.360
we just respond to our We just responds to our
thoughts. But like majority of the time we're in
1:00:53.360,1:00:57.280
the same wavelength. We're like, "Are you tired?"
Like, "Hell yeah." It's like, "Dude, want to take
1:00:57.280,1:01:02.240
a nap? Hell yeah." Yeah. Like, "Are you trying to
go home right now?" "Hell yeah." Yeah. Do you want
1:01:02.240,1:01:09.120
to skip today? Yeah. you. It's like um something
that we say a lot is like, "Hey, so like hear me
1:01:09.120,1:01:18.480
out. I'm down. Like, hear me out. I'm down, but
I'm also down to stay home." Bet. Hell yeah.
1:01:18.480,1:01:23.680
Hell yeah, brother. Come and come,
baby. Come. Come, baby. Come,
1:01:23.680,1:01:30.320
baby. Come. Stop being weird. Sorry.
But yeah, stop being weird. But yeah,
1:01:30.320,1:01:34.160
you edited that out. Yes. I wasn't going
to keep it. Never mind. We can cut that
1:01:34.160,1:01:44.400
[ __ ] out. But yeah. No. Okay. Give me
a dirty kiss, baby. No. Throw the camera.
1:01:44.400,1:01:52.160
Okay. Rapid fire time. Okay. Okay. I'm going to
ask us two questions. Fire away. What is one thing
1:01:52.160,1:01:56.960
out of the many things? What is one thing that you
really like that we bond over? [ __ ] that's hard.
1:01:56.960,1:02:00.400
Okay. Um, I don't know. There's a lot of things,
actually. There's a lot of things. There's a lot
1:02:00.400,1:02:06.000
of things. I love how we were like I I love how
we bond over like snowboarding as a sport. I love
1:02:06.000,1:02:12.800
that we bond over free time. I love that we bond
over um anime together. I love that we bond over
1:02:12.800,1:02:18.720
um how much how the amount of free time that we
want to spend with each other. What do you mean?
1:02:18.720,1:02:23.440
Like, oh my god, I can't wait for this weekend so
we can spend time with each other. Oh, oh my god,
1:02:23.440,1:02:27.840
we can't hang out. They can't can't wait till we
hang out and do things together kind of thing. You
1:02:27.840,1:02:35.760
okay? I love how we bond over outdoorsy stuff like
camping. Camping is so much fun and snowboarding.
1:02:35.760,1:02:39.280
I'm just gonna be like vague so I can like
encapsulate a lot of things. So like camping,
1:02:39.280,1:02:43.920
snowboarding, van life eventually, you know, just
like being outside, things like that. I really
1:02:43.920,1:02:50.960
like how we bond over that. And I really like how
we bond over food. Okay. Since this relationship,
1:02:50.960,1:02:54.800
we're not much of a foodie people, but we just
love eating. We I know we're not really foodies,
1:02:54.800,1:02:59.840
but we love to eat. Yeah, we love to eat. We love
to eat. Like we eat so much, I dude. Like um I
1:02:59.840,1:03:05.040
don't like cooking a lot, but like I find that
I love being able to make my favorite food into
1:03:05.040,1:03:11.920
vegetarian. Yeah, vegetarian. Super cool. I love
Filipino seasick so much. A lot of my friends know
1:03:11.920,1:03:16.880
that. Oh, can you make that this week? I actually
am. I added I added on to our grocery list. One of
1:03:16.880,1:03:20.240
my favorite things. Oh my god, dude. Tofu seas.
Dude, one thing I also like found out about
1:03:20.240,1:03:26.000
relation this relationship is how organized Karina
is and how organized my life is right now. So like
1:03:26.000,1:03:30.160
we have like this notes thing and like oh my god
it's so cool. If you guys have an iPhone and you
1:03:30.160,1:03:37.920
guys use notes being able to maximum the usage
of notes in a relationship is god god honestly.
1:03:37.920,1:03:43.120
So we have this joint note. It's literally just
called grocery list and we plan our meals. So
1:03:43.120,1:03:47.200
like we have a little Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday,
Thursday, Friday and then we got like meal ideas
1:03:47.200,1:03:51.440
for next week. Yeah. So then we list our meals and
then we make our grocery list from those meals and
1:03:51.440,1:03:55.360
we both add to it since we're both on like we
collaborate on it. Yeah. We both collaborated
1:03:55.360,1:04:03.600
on it. But okay, one more question. Why don't we
each take our turn describing like a typical day
1:04:03.600,1:04:06.720
because we have a lot of typical days, right? But
you can you can describe one and I'll describe
1:04:06.720,1:04:12.080
one. Okay. And uh typical day. Well, let's say
let's choose our busiest day out of the week and
1:04:12.080,1:04:17.440
let's be Tuesday. Diligently like I would like
to say I wake up at 5:00 in the morning. He does
1:04:17.440,1:04:23.760
not. I did to go gym sometimes. Yeah. Yep. Okay.
I wake up in the morning. Um, I get ready for work
1:04:23.760,1:04:28.720
basically, you know, shower, prepare my lunch
and all that. Um, normally I would walk Quincy,
1:04:28.720,1:04:35.600
but you have taken a role for that. So, I, you
know, say my goodbyes, scadal straight to work.
1:04:35.600,1:04:40.320
Yeah, he always leaves to work and I'm still
in bed. In bed. So, um, scading my way to work,
1:04:40.320,1:04:46.160
working another nine hours of my day. um
leaving work, heading to Muay Thai practice,
1:04:46.160,1:04:53.520
and then I'm heading right home, right on home to
um prepare dinner because on Tuesdays, which the
1:04:53.520,1:04:57.920
day I'm describing right now, you are in your
group supervision. I have a group consultation
1:04:57.920,1:05:03.120
group that I meet with for two hours every
Tuesday. Yes. And and it it coincides to where
1:05:03.120,1:05:06.800
it starts right after um you're done with work, so
you don't really have time to make dinner. Yeah,
1:05:06.800,1:05:14.160
I don't. By the time I get home, it's like 7:30.
Um preparing dinner for both of us. And um by then
1:05:14.160,1:05:21.280
I am sitting down having a one piece watch party
um with the boys and Kylie. Okay. So maybe I can
1:05:21.280,1:05:29.280
describe a weekend just like a typical weekend. So
usually let's say in the morning we get to sleep
1:05:29.280,1:05:33.680
in a little bit. I always sleep in more than he
does. Even if he he gets to sleep in, he wakes
1:05:33.680,1:05:38.880
up pretty early. Yeah. My sleeping in is like me
getting out of bed at 7. Yeah. So then he usually
1:05:38.880,1:05:44.640
wakes up and walks Quincy and then by the time
that he gets back, I'm usually awake. And then we
1:05:44.640,1:05:48.240
go to Sometimes we go to brunch. Yeah. Sometime
we go to brunch. Sometimes we go to brunch.
1:05:48.240,1:05:52.160
Sometimes I go to a workout class. Yeah. You go to
workout class. Um and then we go to brunch. We go
1:05:52.160,1:05:58.000
to brunch. Um and then you know sometimes we'll
go out to like we like going to the bookstores
1:05:58.000,1:06:04.000
together. So sometimes we'll go to a bookstore or
we'll go like walk around somewhere like you know
1:06:04.000,1:06:09.920
or something. enjoy the day. Yeah. You mean like
at Campbell downtown, take a walk to um to the
1:06:09.920,1:06:14.720
farmers market? Yeah. To the farmers market, buy
some honey. Um and then we'll come home and we'll
1:06:14.720,1:06:20.240
probably like rot for like a few hours. What we
like to call vegging. Vegging. Yeah. Sometimes we
1:06:20.240,1:06:24.800
hang out with the house. Like sometimes we watch
a movie or something with Belle and Leslie and
1:06:24.800,1:06:31.200
then I make dinner and then Yeah. Yeah. And then
we we're probably in bed by like 10 10 p.m. Dude,
1:06:31.200,1:06:36.400
we've been in bed like lately around 900 p.m. 10.
I know. Because we've been sick. We've been so
1:06:36.400,1:06:41.040
sick. It's been lovely. Honestly, like I honestly
like Yeah, I'm missing the outdoorsy for a bit,
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but like the rest it's been been wonderful
just being able to wake up and feeling very
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well rested and knowing that I'm going to get some
more rest later on the day. I know. I'm excited
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for um like just the fall weather because it's
finally getting cooler and we can finally go on
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hikes again. I know. So, like I love that we have
our seasonal activities. Mhm. So, during the fall,
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I know we try to hike as much. During the winter,
we're snowboarding a lot. Um during spring is
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where we We're still snowboarding, I think.
In spring. Yeah. Until like April. True. Yeah.
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Right. Actually, but then we do try to rest. Fall
and spring we try to rest because in the summer
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we go camping. Yeah. Summer we go a whole summer
and winter is like very filled with camping. Wait,
1:07:18.640,1:07:22.560
fall we actually go on like a trip usually. Last
year we went to Japan and this year we're going
1:07:22.560,1:07:29.040
to Thailand. Yeah. Okay, to close things out, what
is something that you are excited for? I'm looking
1:07:29.040,1:07:36.960
forward to us living in Japan a lot. I feel like
I'm about to live a long time fantasy that I had
1:07:36.960,1:07:42.400
for like more than half my life to be honest. I've
been infatuated with Japanese culture like since I
1:07:42.400,1:07:48.160
was very young. Like very young. There's a lot of
things to be excited like before and after that,
1:07:48.160,1:07:53.360
but like to live like another lifelong dream that
I get to experience together with you is something
1:07:53.360,1:07:59.040
I am really excited about. Yeah. Yeah. Next is
definitely the van life. That's what my answer is
1:07:59.040,1:08:03.840
going to be. I'm so excited for van life. While
we're living abroad, we are hoping to save some
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money um because it's like so much cheaper to
live abroad than it is anywhere else in the US,
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especially California. But um we're hoping to
save up some money so that we can buy a van and
1:08:15.920,1:08:21.600
you know just travel around the US for a year.
Um I'm so excited for that because like honestly
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like traveling the US is expensive having to like
fly and like you know um find hotels and stuff. I
1:08:28.720,1:08:32.800
never feel like enough time when you're actually
traveling because you're always in like one thing
1:08:32.800,1:08:37.680
I don't like about like being in vacation is like
you only have like a small small portion of a
1:08:37.680,1:08:43.120
window where you can travel and like you're kind
of just forced to like constantly spend all the
1:08:43.120,1:08:49.280
energy in the world to fill up your entire entire
day just to make the most of it cuz end of the day
1:08:49.280,1:08:53.200
dude you're spending thousands of dollars trying
to get trying to like you know make the best out
1:08:53.200,1:08:56.720
of this out of this slow travel. That's what we're
trying to do is we're trying to slow travel. Slow
1:08:56.720,1:09:01.200
travel. Yes. like really experience experience
and you know it feels like a full circle because
1:09:01.200,1:09:04.480
like you know our first date we talked about
van life and we're finally going to do it and
1:09:04.480,1:09:10.160
we're and and living abroad. We did talk about
that too. So very much so very we have a lot of
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things to look forward to but thank you. Thank
you for being so great. Whatever you but thank
1:09:16.800,1:09:22.240
you so much my love for taking the time. Um he
was so nervous about today. I'll say yes. Yes
1:09:22.240,1:09:26.720
I was. Yeah. But you did so great and all the
other times that you stuttered. I'm just going
1:09:26.720,1:09:33.120
to edit it out. Did I stutter a a lot? No, I did
her. Sorry. But that's all for today's episode.
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Thank you so much for listening and watching if
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Love. We'll have new episodes every other Tuesday.
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